A Little Off the Subject but...

Disclaimer: Many of you won't read this in it's entirety because it is rather lengthy, some of you will read simply because you enjoy reading, others will read, ponder and move on.  The most important of you will read and pass it on or read and react.  I pray it is the latter.

I was watching the news last night, this morning rather, about 3 a.m. and happened upon a short maybe one minute long story covering  a shocking secret by Tim Gunn that he hadn't had sex in 29 years.  He went on to tell why, because the person with whom he was involved and loved very deeply dumped him because of his low, almost non-existent sex drive.  In tears as he shared his story, I found myself weeping with him, not for him.  How transparent and vulnerable he was to open up to total strangers about an issue seemingly so private and secure.

He went on to share that he was comfortable in his situation.  There were no apologies given for where he stood with his sexuality. I now see Tim in a totally different light.  His once pale complexion and almost ghost-like appearance now appear to me as pure and unscathed; God revealed to me in that very instant that is how he intends for all his daughters to be, until married.  It's hard ya'll and I admit I have fallen, but I fight every temptation, best I can.  Yea, on a scale from 1-10, with 10 being the most challenging, I rate this task a 50. 

Starting this organization for pre-teen and teenage girls, I realize now more than ever that God will hold me accountable for every word and deed executed before such a vulnerable audience.  I’ve got to be able to share from experience that she really is worth the wait; that God did create a man for her who will love her totally and completely for her and not simply lust after her for what she does; that  music lied to her when it told her she was nothing but a piece of ass, that the videos were spitting straight game when they told her she had to be a size 4, 6 or even 10 for a man to love her; that sex feels good in all, but I’m sure that there’s nothing more pleasing, beautiful, and intoxicating than making love to a man who promised before God that he’ll be there the next morning and five years after that and 50 years down the line.   

I enjoy working with young people, it keeps me young and more importantly they teach me to not be so far removed from the pulse of our culture.  One activity I’ve found to resonate well with the youth groups I’ve worked with is to have them read the lyrics to a few of the top ten billboard rap songs…keeping in mind that these are the songs that have the heaviest rotation on mainstream radio, which more than likely means children as young as 8 are listening.  Eight out of the ten current songs contain sexually explicit lyrics.  

I, like you, agree that music is not the enemy, but regardless of who the enemy is, we’ve got to understand that we’re dealing with a totally different kind of monster here, a corrupt culture. I digress, cause I can write a book about this so called culture…

Take away the head bobbing 808 and a beat synthetically designed to captivate you and here you have it…

Dance (A$$) – Big Sean
Wobble-dy wobble-dy wa wobble wobble
I'm st-stacking my paper my wallet look like a bible
I got girlies half naked that shit look like the grotto
How your waist anorexic and then your ass is colossal, whoop
Drop that ass make it boomerang
Take my belt off bitch I'm Pootie Tang

Tippy tow tippy tay you gonna get a tip today
Fuck that you gonna get some dick today
I walk in with my crew and I'm breaking they necks
I'm looking all good I'm making her wet
They pay me respect they pay me in checks
And if she look good she pay me in sex, do it
Bounce that ass it's the roundest
You the best you deserve a crown bitch

LOTUS FLOWER BOMB - WALE

 I could wear you out inside I could tell you like persistence,

but I make you cum in tri's I just think we need one night,

can't decide if I came right, Easy baby my thing tight, but that lotus flower just ain't right

I ain't thinking I ain't right, can't decide but I can't fight

Easy baby you the bomb and all, but I be damned if I do not land mine

 Or at least try, can I speak up? was it peace out? can we eat lunch?

Can we take shots with your flavor, flat drinks we call

 A cups I just think I need one night, slightly more if it's done right

With that gorgeous face, I don't know your name,

 it ain't important babe cuz I'mma call you Mine

Work Out – J. Cole

Let me see you get
High then go low
Now, girl won't you drop that thing down to the floor?
I’m here for one night, how far will you go?
I wanna see you (work out for me, work out for me)

If you, like me, are fed up with this crap, then I urge you to join me and my friend Asharkii in the movement of Talitha Cumi.  Click here for details.  We don’t have it all together, but why wait? 

-Kim